Love & Hate

The day my parents asked me to leave their house is still fresh in my mind. I actually thought it was a badge of my devotion to God for them to do that. For you see, I must hate them in order to demonstrate my love for God. After all isn't that what Jesus said, "Whoever loves Father or Mother more than me is not worthy of me..." and "If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children, brothers and sisters...cannot be my disciple."

If we carry the thought further, apparently God hates them that hate him, He hated Esau, He hates sinners - because sinners hate Him, etc. etc. So hating is not a bad thing, it's a good thing if we hate for the right reason, correct?

If I love chasing after things more than I love following Christ, I must hate God, right? It is not possible to love God and "things." For Jesus said, "No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money."  (Matt. 6:24)

The mystery of this idea of hate is deep. We confirm that God is love, yet with the same breath we affirm that God is a jealous God. We read in the same Gospels, hate your family and honor your family.

It is interesting to me how different folks have different approaches to this idea of hate.

When I was being such a butt-head and flaunting my pitiful piety in front of my parents to the point they invited me to leave, I am not certain I was doing God a favor. It is unlikely that any honor was reflected on Him as a result of that. I know for certain, my parents were not saying, "How devoted and committed our son is to God." It is more likely they were saying, "Our son needs to be committed."

When we compare our devotion to God to those things that surround us, it indeed must be supreme. Supreme to the point that it appears to be "hate" for anything else. Our commitment to Christ must know no rivals. Bouncing that up against our commitment to anything or anyone else may seem like "hate." But is it?

This indeed is a mystery.

Father Spirit, may my devotion to You be supreme over everything else in my life.

"He Ain't Heavy..."

If this stilted mind is right, Simon and Garfunkel's song, Bridge Over Troubled Waters, has a line in it that says, "He ain't heavy, he's my brother." The song is about encouragement, sharing another's burdens, being there for a person in need. At least that is my take on it.

It was several years ago, in another state, another town, a casual friend of ours lost his Dad. The death was rather sudden and took a heavy toll on our young friend. There was an immediate point of identification for me, since both my Dad and step-dad had died within two years of each other. So my heart could feel his heaviness.

Even though we were not close friends, one afternoon, I picked up the phone and called the young man and let him know that there was someone out there who could share his sorrow. Someone who could help him carry that heaviness of heart.

I knew that there would be times when he hungered to hear the words of his father; To see his face; feel his touch; to simply know that he was there. Then come to the realization that he was not there and he would experience none of those things again.

It is a devastating feeling.

Our conversation brought us both to tears, as it is now. Nevertheless, a few weeks later his wife shared with me how much that phone call meant.  What an encouragement it had been to the man.

I say this not because I am a kind and considerate man, often I am not. I share this because sometimes "heaviness in a man's heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad."  Prov. 12:25

At one time or another, we all feel the heaviness of life. Many times, those around us are experiencing burdens almost unimaginable to us. We may not know what to do or what to say. A word of encouragement may be all that is needed to help ease the burden. Letting them know that you are there encouraging them as they walk over the "bridge of troubled waters."

Father, let me be an encourager. Help me not to feel embarrassed to reach out. For some the bridge is long.

Pig Rings

My office is situated in such a way with a simple glance to my left I can see out the window and enjoy nature, keep an eye on the neighborhood and keep watch for the mail. I will admit, this "convenience" comes at the price of an occasional daydream or interruption in my work flow or train of thought.

There is a sense, when reading Proverbs 11, that the writer may be in a similar situation. Everything seems to be flowing right along then, without warning, we read, "Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion (v.22)." 

The use of rings in an animals nose, such as pigs, cows, or bulls serves a useful purpose not a decorative one. Rings in a pig's snout primarily prevent the pig from rooting - foraging where they shouldn't be foraging. For other animals, since the inside of the nose or snout is extremely sensitive, the ring serves as a means of controlling the animal. 

In ancient times, nose rings were fairly common. When Abraham's servant went to find a wife for Isaac when he found Rebekah, and determined she was the one, he put a nose ring on her and bracelets (Gen. 24:47).  Ezekiel refers to God's bride, Israel, saying God had adorned her as a bride and put a "ring on (her) nose and earrings in (her) ears and a beautiful crown on (her) head (16:12)."

The purpose of the nose ornament was a sign of commitment-a decision to be faithful. No rooting around for the wife or the people of Israel. A commitment was made and it was expected to be honored.

The writer of Proverbs may be saying, a beautiful woman/bride/wife who has no discretion in her behavior is like putting a sign of commitment on the snout of a worthless animal. It has no meaning or value.

Signs of commitment are of little import if one is unwilling to follow through on the commitment. Taking up the cross of Christ means nothing if our pattern of behavior belies what we say we believe.  The principles of the Cross are not for sissies. There is nothing superficial about one who has committed themselves to be a follower of Christ.

Poor Thinking

This is not a political statement, simply an observation in poor thinking.

Considering the condition of the economy and the prospect for future "growth", it seems rather short sided the way President Bush is thinking. Somehow, he believes that those "incentive checks" starting to go out Monday will be a shot in the arm to the economy.  I cannot imagine anything further from the truth. I suspect most of those funds will recycle back into the economy in the form of people paying bills and perhaps eeking out one more mortgage payment.

Poor thinking is not uncommon among politicians. It is not uncommon among the common. A good example is found in Genesis 32 & 33 when Jacob prepares to meet Esau. For the first time since his deception of Esau, Jacob will have an encounter with his brother. Expecting that Esau will act in a manner similar to the way Jacob acted many years prior, Jacob is in fear. Fear that proves to be unfounded.

How often do we do the same - Live in fear of the unknown and ultimately, the unfounded? Living under a pretense that worry and anxiety will somehow produce something of substance.  I'll confess I do it all the time.

Many of my friends and readers of one of my blogs know for over a year we have been anxiously awaiting the sale of our house in Texas. At least I have been "anxiously awaiting" that transaction.  Well, it is now under contract. A great blessing, yet at the same time for me, simply a shift in anxiety. That is, I'll be anxiously awaiting the closing date in some fear of circumstances changing to sabotage the sale.   Of course, if the sale does finalize, I'll simply then move my anxiety to another area - should we travel to England to see the kids, to Texas to meet our new daughter in-law and grandkids, to Washington to visit my mom, or a trip to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary?   My, I'm worn out just thinking about what it will be like thinking about those things.

As my wife and I were discussing my "handicap of anxiety", almost simultaneously we thought of 1 Peter 5:6-7; "Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you."

Perhaps Jacobs wrestling with the "the man" at the river Jabbok, or his prayers to God prior to setting out toward Esau's land are a reflection of what Peter was saying. It was all a matter of coming to terms with what was real, not what was imagined. A means of changing poor thinking into right thinking. A time of deciding to trust God and move ahead.

Someone once said that, "Worry is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do but doesn't get you anywhere." Trusting God is what neutralizes worry and anxiety. As Jesus said, "Therefore, do not be anxious....your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added to you."  (Matthew 6:31-33)

I am not sure why I am such a slow learner, perhaps I will look back on this whole event and see all that God has taught me - and he has -- then realize it's time to trust Him in all areas, with everything.

New Commandment

"Half baked" - It is a way to describe either something that is not fully baked, or,  as it was and is used by some folks in the common market, "nuts" - as in no handle on the pail or out of one's mind.

The thoughts I share today are "half baked." Meaning, not fully baked, from my perspective, perhaps out of one's mind by others.

For quite some time I have struggled with the idea that Jesus' teachings can be characterized as commandments. Commandments in the sense that one might normally think about them with reference to the Ten Commandments or The Law. (I have written about this previously.)

Many Bible teachers have large lists outlining the commandments of Jesus. One teacher indicates that there are some 200 commandments of Christ. A list, he did not provide, but simply posited the statement.

Here is my struggle and I would welcome any insight or comments with regard to my observations.

My understanding, when reading the Gospels, is that Jesus taught his disciples a new way of living and giving of oneself.  If it could be summarized it would be this - "just as I have done" you do likewise.  He folds all of that into what he characterizes as a new commandment, "...That you love one another, just as I have loved you, you are to love one another (John 13:34)."

Now the idea of loving is not unique (new) to Christ, his disciples, or most communities or groups in NT times. What is new, is that they love just as Christ has loved, through total surrender, service and self sacrifice. In other words, be willing to give everything for one another. That is NEW.  "Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends," puts it all in perspective.

Did Jesus abrogate the Ten Commandments? No, he fulfilled them completely. Did Jesus re-write what he did not like about God's previous commandments? No, he affirmed them and encouraged others to do the same. Did Jesus do anything other than fulfill the commands that the Father had given him? No.  However, as near as I can tell, the only commandment he gave his followers was this - "...Love one another, just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."   John 13:34-35

Just as Israel struggled with the whole of the Law, I truly expect that command of Christ is sufficient to challenge me for all my days. If I get that right, coupled with what Jesus affirmed as the two greatest commandments in the Law, than I shall have done well.

Having said all that, how do I reconcile such phrases as "teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you..."; "if you love me keep my commandments", etc.  I do not have a specific reply other than to fall back on John 15:12, "This is my commandment, that you love one another, as I have loved you."

Father, I confess my inability to understand. I confess my struggle to love sacrificially, to love without condition. I yield my heart, by the power of you Spirit may I learn to do both without reservation.

Loose Lips...

You may have heard the phrase, "Loose lips sink ships."  It originates from World War II and it's original form was "Loose lips might sink ships." The idea was that inadvertent words may give information to the enemy and cause harm to our men and women in uniform.

The writer of Proverbs says something similar, "When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent (10:19 ESV)."

It seems that the idea behind this verse is basic, the more one talks the more likely it is that they will cause harm or speak hurtful words. Restraint in speech and conversation is more instructive and shows prudence and wisdom. 

GUILTY!!!!  That's what God was saying to me when I read this verse. Indeed, I have a tendency to say more than the situation requires and sometimes with words that have been dipped in the well of sarcasm or the vial called "poison."  Given the opportunity, or if the situation seems to require it, I can kick the slats out from under anyone. Which I confess is wrong, hurtful and indeed sin.

I recall a bumper sticker that was popular a few years ago; "Be patient, God isn't finished with me yet."  Reading this verse in Proverbs has struck me in just that way.  God is exposing and wanting to chip away those areas of my life that are hurtful, not only to others, but to me and my ability to be a follower of Christ.

Words can be benign or they can be cancerous. They can carry meaning or malice, healing or hurt. Sometimes I just need to know when to shut up!

Loose lips can sink relationships. They can drive a wedge between me and the other person in such a way it may never be undone. That indeed is transgression of the greatest form.

...But no human being can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so.   (James 3:8-9)

Father, thank you for your Word and how it speaks to my needs. May I be wise enough to heed its instruction and strong enough to yield my life to your shaping.

Haunting Thoughts

As I move along this continuum of faith, my mind is often agitated and swirling with questions, ideas, and thoughts. I often write about them as they come, other times, I simply ponder them and wonder what their significance might be, if any.

One that has puzzled me for some time is the idea of "invitations" at the end of a worship service. I must admit, when I was a pastor, many years ago in Southern Baptist Churches, the invitation is what you lived for. It was the time of decision and commitment. It was a time when perhaps God would offer "proof" that His word would not return void and that the preaching had touched the hearts of many.

I will also confess, there were times when I made the invitation so broad - "If you love your mother - come", that it would be impossible for anyone to pass up the opportunity to come forward. I smirk at the idea now, but then it was no laughing matter.

Over the past year especially, my wife and I have been exposed to a variety of worship settings. Some would offer an open invitation, inviting those to come either for membership or "salvation." Some would issue an invitation that merely asked for follow-up after the service or at some later time.

The one's that intrigue me now are the ones where people are asked to bow their heads and close their eyes - then - those who are making a decision for Christ or some other significant decision to raise their hands or to "look up" so that decision can be acknowledged.  Why is that?

Is there a fear of asking people to PUBLICLY acknowledge their decision to faith in Christ?  Not merely to raise their hand, look up, or wink three times, but to step out boldly and by doing so say, "Yes, I am making a decision to follow Christ."

The Christian faith is not a secret society with some sort of secret hand shake. The life is all about public acknowledgement of one's relationship and commitment to be a follower of the Christ (Mark 8:38, Luke 9:26).

John gives us a clear example of this in the closing pages of his Gospel. "Nevertheless, many even of the authorities believed in him (Christ), but for fear of the Pharisees they did not confess it, so they would not be put out of the synagogue; for they loved the glory that comes from man more than the glory that comes from God (12:42-43)."

Uhm..."the glory that comes from man" - fleeting at best, trivial at worse. The "glory that comes from God?" - satisfying and eternal.

My conclusion - should I come to one - is this. If God ever granted me an opportunity to pastor again, invitations would be selective and public - openly, brazenly and without fear - public. The other times, I would simply challenge people to make whatever decision it is and flesh it out in the way you follow the Christ.

Father Spirit, this forum is about as public as one can get. At times it serves simply as an environment for putting forth ideas. Other times it is an expression of my own angst regarding my walk with Christ. Through it all, let me seek your glory.

Tradition

"Tradition" is the opening number for the acclaimed Broadway musical, Fiddler on the Roof. In the song, the main character, Tevye, explains the roles of each social class (fathers, mothers, sons, and daughters) in the village of Anatevka, and how the traditional roles of people like the matchmaker and the rabbi contribute to the village. The song also sets the major theme of the show: the villagers trying to continue their traditions and keep their society running as the world around them changes.  (From Wikipedia  4/08)

Much of what Jesus faced, with regard to opposition toward him, was that of tradition. What Jesus taught confronted the Jewish tradition head on. It was the ultimate game of "chicken" - who was going to flinch first? Certainly not the Messiah, so the Jews, steeped in tradition, dug their heels in at every opportunity and continued to put themselves - their eternal destiny - in jeopardy.

In the US, people do not cling to tradition or traditional beliefs as much as they do in other societies. Consequently, we often think that "making disciples" is a matter of leading people to a saving knowledge of Christ and then turning them over to some type of Sunday morning "educational" structure that is somehow going to equip them as followers of Christ.  We give them a set of rules and modicum study of the Word and hope for the best.

Naturally, as men like Barna, Hull, and Hybel** can testify, that type of disciple-making is akin to no disciple-making at all. Nevertheless, if growth in church attendance is up and Sunday School attendance is up, what is being done must be working - Right?  The old "if it ain't broke don't fix it" mentality.

The "tradition" of the Church can be just as stifling as the Pharisees tradition toward the Law, the LDS tradition toward their "book", the natural man's tradition toward his favorite activities.

In the Gospel of John chapters 7 & 8, Jesus has an on-going exchange with the Pharisees and religious leaders. For a full week, or more, during the Feast of Booths, he dialogues with them and yet, they cannot, will not, come to an understanding. An understanding of who he is and what his mission is. Some are said to "believe in him" (John 8:30), however Jesus knows that their tradition is interfering with true belief, saving belief. This becomes evident with the exchange that follows from verses 31-59.

I often think that I do not have many traditions. But I do. My biggest one is my daily routine and lifestyle. Disrupt it, or schedule something that conflicts with it and I find it hard to justify abandoning my routine.  I can do it, but I feel tremendous guilt when I do. Trivial perhaps, nevertheless, it is built in to my being and I find it hard to be flexible with regard to it. It handicaps me in many ways.

"Tradition" - the world changes and traditions find it difficult to keep up. Yet, in order to be a follower of Christ we are called to deny ourselves (and our traditions), take up our cross daily, and follow him. Both the "denying" and the "taking up" call for discipline and total commitment to the Christ that calls us.

Father, may I be found faithful in my following.

 

** Barna's Book "Growing True Disciples", Hull's books "The Disciple-Making Church" and "The Complete Book of Discipleship" and Hybel's "Reveal" study and book.

Wisdom for Living

My father in-law is most likely one of the wisest men I know. At least to the extent that I know him. Often his life is a mystery kept wrapped deep within his heart. However, when he does unwrap a portion he exposes a life of deep contentment.

As my wife was growing up, and still to this day, my father in-law had a tendency to communicate truth to his nine children through "message boards."  He would paint a saying or axiom on a piece of wood and post it on the hillside, in direct view, out the dining room widow. When the family was eating or playing games around the table, those words were always visible.

Naturally, as kids are prone to do, they would scoff at some of his witticisms, however most of the children and grandchildren can quote several of them to this day and comment on how they have affected their life.

One that my wife and I reflect on often is "Do Not Criticize, Condemn or Complain." It may go without saying, that my wife can practice that with ease. On the other hand, I jump in to those three practices with both feet!

That particular saying is like a double-edged sword. It can be applied to the words of the wisdom writer who said, "Whoever heeds instruction is on the path to life, but he who rejects reproof leads others astray." (Prov. 10:17 ESV)

My rationale can be laid out in this manner. Heeding the "three Cs" is like instruction that keeps one on the path of disciplined living. Bitterness is often the fruit of criticizing, condemning, and complaining. No one wins when bitterness is in the game.

The second edge is "reproof." If there is not a measure of critical analysis, condemnation for wrong living, behavior, or speech - and criticism that brings positive reflection, then a variety of things may run amuck.

Of course, balance is the key. And having a valid role that allows the exercise of those "C" characteristics is important.

Many of us do not have that valid role. We simply enjoy criticizing, condemning and complaining. Somehow it puts us in a superior position to those, or that which we are assaulting.  Oh my.

Father, I confess my penchant for the three Cs. My desire to find in them fodder for fulfilling my own weaknesses. Forgive me and teach me to hold a quiet tongue or silent keys if words cannot be laid down that glorify You and build up the body of Christ.

Fasting

I suppose it is rather contradictory to talk about fasting after having just finished by Pop-Tart! Nevertheless, I will.

Sometime in my journey of faith, I know I have fasted. But that memory is distant and almost non-existent. That spiritual exercise has never been a part of my growing in Christ. Therefore, I expect that I have missed something.

In the lengthy discourse given by Jesus to his disciples, as Matthew records it, Jesus focuses on three spiritual disciplines; giving, prayer, and fasting. His introductory remarks to each of these is not "if" you do them, but "when" you do them. They are not new to any of his intimate hearers, they are expected practices.

Frankly, I am gung-ho for the first two, but that third one scares the daylights out of me.

As a part of my examining Matthew 6:16-18, I did some supplemental reading on fasting. The practice of that discipline as it sets in the Old Testament, New Testament, and practices in the Church today. Most of it was what I knew already, fasting was a regular practice, often done two times a week or associated with special occasions or needs.  For the ancients up to and including NT times, fasting was usually done on what we call Monday and Thursday. For the believers, it moved to Friday and Sunday. Practices today vary but are seldom seen in Protestant churches, usually in Anglican or Catholic assemblies.

The intent of fasting is a redirection of focus - off self and onto God. I suspect that for those new to the practice, like myself, the focus would initially be off self and onto food. Then I might progress to off self onto how good I'm doing (oops that is "self" isn't it?). Then, if I am disciplined enough to continue the practice, off self onto God.

I have a least one friend who I know fasts. For my others I am not certain. Which I suspect is appropriate.

In preaching a sermon series through the Sermon on the mount, talking about the Lord's Prayer, my pastor has said "You are not a Christian if you do not pray." I'll be interested if he says the same thing about fasting.  I suspect he won't.

Of course, just like the Pharisees, if you read different selections by churches or groups, you will find "fasting" includes everything form restraining from just certain foods, to restraining from looking out the window for the day.  :)   In other words, fast, but do not make it totally inconvenient.

We are even told by nutritionists that going long periods without food is not good. Uhm....somebody should have told Moses or Jesus that.

I'm not going to say what my intent is toward this discipline. However I do think it is a valid part of Christian discipline. So I suspect I better practice my "oh, I'm not fasting" face.

"Preach it Brother!"

Preaching is an intriguing exercise. I suspect if you asked most people what they think of preaching the answers may move dramatically across the scale.  Many people simply see it as getting yelled at. Others see it as a motivational message stirring them on in their Christian life. (I've not met those people, but I'm certain they are out there.)

Here is what strikes me as the irony of preaching. If it is evangelistic in nature, often it is forceful and direct. If it is discipling in nature, it can take a more teaching-tone. All dependent on the preacher of course.  Some can't help but yell. Others find that communication in worship seldom needs forceful speech.

I am not certain I know anyone who enjoys being yelled at or talked to, in any context. But I do know many people who hunger to be taught what it means to be a follower of Christ.

Even when you read the sermons of Peter or Paul, there is never a sense that they are being boisterous. Firm, intent, direct, even passionate, but not one of those requires a "preachy" tone.

I am currently reading a book by N.T. Wright entitled "Following Jesus - Biblical Reflections on Discipleship."  It is in fact a series of sermons. There are times I can almost see him delivering these messages to his predominately English congregation. Then I think, most people in America would walk out after one of these and dare say they were "boring."  Implying, if they have not been exhorted by loudness, they have not heard a sermon.  What a pity.

Enthusiasm and passion attract me just like they do other people. These are hard emotions to manufacture regardless of how loud one might get. However, they do issue from an intimacy with the text and an identification of it's teaching. Those two points require only that you share it with me genuinely.  I will respond.

"It's For Your Own Good"

How many times have you heard or perhaps said those words? They are similar, by intention, with words like, "It is going to hurt me more than it hurts you." Or, "Believe me, you may not understand this now, but you will thank me later."

These are "justifying" remarks. They explain to whoever is the focus of our action, that what they will experience is for their building up and not for their destruction. The action we are about to take is not about us, it is about them.

Hard to swallow this concept at times, isn't it?

The apostle Paul in his second letter to the Corinthians says something similar. "Have you been thinking all along that we have been defending ourselves before you? We are speaking in Christ, before God. Everything we do, beloved, is for the sake of building you up (12:19)."

Paul has no need to exculpate himself before his readers. There is no need to try and justify his words or his actions. Everything he has said and done has been in the open before everyone, including God. What he has said and what he has done, or will do, is based on the strengthening of the disciples in the Corinthian church.  Something that perhaps has been undermined by the so called "super apostles" that have infiltrated the body and attempted to distort both Paul's credibility and his teaching.

Paul's fear -- when he comes he will find continued pettiness among them and a blatant lack of repentance (vs. 20-21).

In my journey, God is using multiple people in a variety of ways to direct my steps. I do not always like what I hear or read. At times it takes days, weeks, or months to sink in and take hold; to realize their actions have been directed toward my good, not my destruction.  Nevertheless, I am learning. And I suspect that is what discipleship is all about.

As Paul said later in his letter, "Your restoration is what we pray for (13:9)."

Father God, thank you for those in my life you have lead to give encouragement and instruction, words of correction and words for building up. May I always find the strength and courage to receive their guidance to your glory.

Improve on this!!!

Automakers deliver new and improved cars for our safety and pleasure. Retailers deliver better service and compete for our business with supposedly improved products. Homebuilders look for ways to give more home for the money with amenities and attractive features. Even food producers look for ways to improve everything from Cheerios to Cheetos.

However, I sincerely doubt that anyone, anywhere, at any time could improve on these words:

For this reason, since the day we heard it, we have not ceased praying for you and asking that you may be filled with the knowledge of God's will in all spiritual wisdom and understanding, so that you may lead lives worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him, as you bear fruit in every good work and as you grow in the knowledge of God.   May you be made strong with all the strength that comes from his glorious power, and may you be prepared to endure everything with patience, while joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has enabled you to share in the inheritance of the saints of light. He has rescued us from the power of darkness and transformed us into the kingdom is his beloved Son, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.   (Colossians 1:9-14)

May God help us to see the power in each word, the joy in each segment of our salvation, and the wonder of the supreme and supernatural effect of our redemption in Christ - who paid our debt in full.

Thank you Father for the sacrifice made to secure my rescue. Through the power of your Spirit, may I lead a life worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing to him.

Let's Turn in Here!

When I take a trip, usually I have a specific route and destination planned. I seldom vary from that route. In fact, I am not one to take little side trips along the way. And I seldom want to veer farther then a half mile from the exit ramp to take a meal break! I am not certain whether that is a "guy" thing or not, but that is how I am. 

For some reason, how I live and think is dramatically different. I am always taking little "side trips" and my mind can stray from its initial thoughts at the blink of a an eye.

Like this morning. When reading my scripture, my mind was taking all sorts of side trips. How my neighbor cut too far over on  my lawn. How I felt so sullen after last nights church service. How I should put up a fence along OUR property line.  How we did not get a call from the Realtor saying our house was sold. Etc, etc.

In Proverbs 8 we are told that "the woman Folly is loud...seductive, and knows nothing (v. 13).  She calls out to those "who are going straight on their way" crying out, "whoever is simple, let him turn in here! (vs.15-16)"

Somehow, I could identify with that. I am often intent on "going straight" yet find many things that are foolish and silly calling out for me to "turn in" - turn in and pursue them

Yes, I know it is a matter of discipline. But sometimes the lure seems so sweet and those secret thoughts so satisfying I find it hard to stay focused. (Proverbs 9:17)

Jesus said if anyone is going to follow him, then that person must take up his cross daily. Perhaps for some of us, that "daily" becomes moment by moment, hour by hour. A constant blocking out of the loud and seductive clamor of foolish thoughts and destructive behavior.

I tend to think the clatter I hear beckoning me from the path of the cross, other people do not hear. The exits along the path I take seem to have attractions strewn about with their neon lights and fancy ads enticing me to come and enjoy their offerings. Other followers of the cross seem immune from all of that. But are they?

I know the emptiness of empty. I know that taking that off ramp may lead me to discover that there is no way to get back on the original path chosen. That somehow the route planned will never be the same, yet...

There she goes again...."turn in here, come on, go ahead, turn in here."

Damn, I hate that!

Father, teach me how to keep my eyes on Jesus. To focus on what it means to follow him daily. Through the power of your Spirit, may I find the strength to keep going straight.

Public Thought

What was the first act of God's creation?

If you said "light", you might be wrong - At least to some degree.

According to Proverbs 8:22, "wisdom" was the first act of God's creation. That is, depending on the translation you use and how the verb "kaw-naw" is interpreted.

Most translations I looked at translate the word as "Create" or some word related to that idea. However, if you examine the use of the word from Genesis to Zechariah  (the word appears not to have been used beyond the time of Zechariah), it is predominately translated as "buy", "possess", or "get." All within the scope of the word's primary meaning.

The ESV renders the word in Proverbs 8:22 as "The LORD possessed me (wisdom) at the beginning of his work, the first of his acts of old."

Now it's Saturday, so allow some latitude here. If God "possesses" something, it had to be either there as part of his nature, or there in some other form. If God had not moved in terms of creation before Genesis 1, then wisdom has always been - or perhaps was before God was.

When I first read Proverbs 8:22 in my ESV translation, I thought, "wait, God cannot possess something. That would mean He acquired something outside himself." Which would mean, as stated earlier, either it was as He was, it was before He was, or it completed Him in some way.  None of those ideas are very palatable.  As I expect it was not to many other translators, so they chose "created" or "fathered" or some word related to those ideas.

Why is this capturing my attention? For one very good reason, how a team of writer's translate a word has an impact on the overall tone of the verse. It gives you some insight in to what the translator's were thinking or even perhaps, their theological tenor.  I would much prefer to read verse 22 and see the word "created" than the word "possessed." One allows me to keep going without serious consideration. The other causes me to slam on my reading brakes and say, "Wait, that is an unusual word and it carries certain implications."

Yes, these are public thoughts on quiet overcast Saturday morning in NC. Thoughts that you might read and say, "What the heck is this guy thinking?" Or, "This is much ado about nothing." And you may be right. As always, context is critical and verse 23 seems to clear up the issue stating that wisdom was "...Set up at the first, before the beginning of the earth."  Why the ESV translators did not appear to be consistent here is a mystery.

Nevertheless, it has jump-started my mind and that's a good thing for me.

What did Jesus do - What will I do?

Part of the joy of doing a great deal of reading on the subject of discipleship is finding new ways where I don't measure up to the task. That may sound odd, but finding my weakness is what allows me to grow. Anyone can continue to build on their strengths, the hard part about being a follower of Christ is confronting weakness and sin.

After finishing the great chapter on faith (Ch.11), the writer of Hebrews has a "therefore." Of course, when you see a "therefore" it is always wise to ask, "What is it there for?" Well, here is the answer to that;

Heb 12:1  Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us,
Heb 12:2  looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.

We are exhorted to look to Jesus as the "founder and perfecter of our faith." The form of the Greek word for "perfecter" is used only here in the NT. However it can also be translated as completer.  A similar word and idea is used by Jesus in Matthew 5:48, "You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect."

I understand that the bar presented in Matthew's passage is high indeed. Who could ever be perfect or complete like God is perfect or complete?  Nevertheless, when we look at the Hebrew's passage, we have a bit of light shed on the topic as it relates to Jesus and what it means to be a follower of Christ.

First, Jesus lived the perfect life. He was one who was "in every respect, tempted as we are, yet without sin (Heb. 5:15)."

Second, Jesus offered the perfect sacrifice. "He entered once for all into the holy places, not by means of the blood of goats and calves, but by means of his own blood, thus securing an eternal redemption...the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself, without blemish to God... (Heb. 9:12, 14)"

Third, he fulfilled, completed the perfect will of God. The only reason Christ is "seated at the right hand of the throne of God" is because his work is done. God's plan for redemption is completed with the death, burial and resurrection of Christ.

Because of what Christ did - we are compelled to "consider him who endured...such hostility against himself, SO THAT (we) may not grow weary or fainthearted (Heb. 12:3)". As follower of Christ we have by no means suffered to the point of our example - to the point of total sacrifice. "In (our) struggle against sin (we) have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood (12:4)."

In this book, Following Jesus - Biblical Reflections on Discipleship, N.T. Wright says in his preface, "Plenty of people in the church and outside it have made up a 'Jesus' for themselves, and have found that this invented character makes few real demands on them. He makes them feel happy from time to time but doesn't challenge them, doesn't suggest they get up and do something about the plight of the world. Which of course the real Jesus had an uncomfortable habit of doing."

Man!  I hate it when someone confronts me with my paltry attempt at following Christ! Being complete in Christ, following the example Christ set, doing what I often find uncomfortable doing, is my biggest challenge as a disciple. Now that I have confessed that, I expect I might determine what I plan to do about it.

The Politics of Change

I have been paying attention to politics, to one degree or another, for forty years now. Never have I heard the word "change" used so much by two candidates than it is by Senators Clinton and Obama. The import of that is how they use the word. It is almost always a noun, seldom a verb.

The noun form of the word means a substitute, alteration, or variation (variety). As it is used by the political candidates it means a fundamental alteration in how government is done. Of course, unless you happen to be living under a rock, that will never happen, as much as any of us may wish it. Too many people have too many vested interests in their city, county, state or Political Action Committees to make that kind of change possible.

When the Bible speaks of change, especially regarding conversion it speaks of it primarily in two ways. One is a fundamental change in our being - hence the term "born again." The other is a progressive change in our person, some will call this sanctification.

When Jesus said to Nicodemus, "You must be born again," he was not insisting Nicodemus to do something that he was incapable of doing. He was making it clear to Nicodemus that being born of the Holy Spirit means a radical change in the fundamental nature of a person brought about by God.  (John 3)

When Paul talks about being "transformed by the renewal of your mind," (Romans 12:2) he was speaking of a transitional way of thinking and being for the person who has been born again. That is, our "inner nature is being renewed day by day  (2 Corinthians 4:16)."

Each idea of "change" has its place in our lives. The first may be a noun the second a verb. In the first there is an alteration or substitution of one life for another - "the old has passed away, behold, the new has come (2 Corinthians 5:17)."  In the second there is an altering or the heart and mind. We live in transition as your hearts are being renewed and we are being conformed to the image of Christ (Romans 12:2, 2 Corinthians 4:16, 4:18). We have "put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator (Colossians 3:10)."

Even though we are being blitzed by this word "change", it is imperative that we keep it in perspective. Regardless of who is elected next January, in politics the proof is in the doing.

When it comes to the Christian life, the proof is in the been, becoming AND doing (James 2:26).

The Clint Eastwood Christian

I remember what seemed to be my last moments of weakness. That does not mean I am not weak and that I do not have moments of weakness now, it simply means I do not or in some sense will not, allow those moments to do their work in my life.

The circumstances were fairly basic. I had been pastoring a church in Sacramento for a little over a year. One day, I came home to find my wife and son had left me. No note, no message, just gone. The months that followed ultimately resulted in our divorce. No one was going to do that to me and get away with it. The church I was ministering to voted unanimously to keep me on and help me through this time. But I refused. I was hurt, humiliated, and basically mad. Mad at God and wanted nothing to do with life as a minister. So I resigned.

A few months after that, there was little doubt that I was sinking fast. I knew if I did not do something, I would drown. So I went to the seminary I was attending to re-enroll - to place myself in what I thought was a safe and nurturing environment. They refused, saying I must wait a year and demonstrate contrition and remorse. It was like a kick in the stomach. The knot at the end of my rope had been untied and fell hopelessly into nothingness.

Once I gained my composure, I decided I would not let anyone do that to me again. So I pursued what I called my "Clint Eastwood" life. A "dirty Harry" mentality that built walls all around my heart. A life that would not let anyone in and I pulled out my 44 magnum, "The most powerful handgun in the world...", anytime anyone tried. My motto was his motto, "Go ahead punk, make my day!"

May I say now, with great shame, I left plenty of dead bodies in my wake. I refused to be weak or show weakness. I resisted vulnerability and dependency on God. I was going to be my own man! A man's man!

How foolish. Nevertheless, there are still remnants of that persona that haunt me today. It is often difficult for me to identify with Paul's words, "For when I am weak, then I am strong." I prefer to be strong and made stronger. Again I say, "How foolish!"

I am hesitant to say all of this may be my "throne in the flesh." However it may be exactly that. Satan uses it to slap me around and shove it in my face saying, "What a pitiful Christian you are." Indeed, he may be right. But I have one who lives inside of me that is greater than he. One that will pour out his grace and help me to be transformed in my mind and heart, to be conformed to his image - not "dirty Harry's."

Father Spirit, continue to do a work in me that only you can do. Let me learn that weakness - weakness in Christ, provides true strength for living.

Spiritual Disciplines-Prayer

As followers of Christ there are certain disciplines designed to strengthen and deepen our relationship to Christ and his reflection in our lives. I am not certain what the full compliment of those disciplines might be - however, I am certain you would receive a varied response depending on who you asked.

Prayer is most definitely one of those disciplines. I suspect, again based on who you asked, it would rank at the top in most anyone's listing.

I have been thinking a great deal about prayer these past couple of days. In part because our Pastor spoke about it last Sunday morning and will again for the next few Sundays. He is doing a series on the Sermon on the Mount and looking at the Lord's Prayer right now.

In his introductory remarks to the Lord's Prayer, he stated the necessity of prayer for disciples of Christ and strongly implied if one does not pray, then they are not a disciple of Christ. (He did not use the term "disciple" he used "Christian.")  I have been chewing on that for a while now. Here's why.

There are two implications of that position. One is that a form of prayer is indicative of one's relationship to God. Two, one cannot be if one does not do. Now I am certain he might argue those two observations, but nonetheless, in the context of his remarks that was the implication.

I pray a lot. Not like you might pray perhaps, nevertheless, I pray regularly. In fact, I would suggest it is hard for any follower of Christ to not pray. I often pray with my eyes open. I seldom pray on my knees. I despise praying over a meal in a restaurant. I pray when am reading scripture, especially when I am struck by a truth I had not seen before or processed. I pray when I am writing either for publication or pleasure. I pray when I screw up or something comes out of my mouth that should not be there. I even pray when watching TV and something touches my heart either for good or bad.  In some sense, this blog itself is a form of prayer for me.

Yes, I have what some may call "formal" prayers. But those are few and far between.

Prayer is a supreme privilege for believers. Having full access to God through Christ is a powerful thought. That does not diminish the import of models like the Lord's Prayer, it simply means that that prayer is a model, not a ritual. It also means that God's presence, at all times, makes praying, in many regards, an on-going, pray-as-it- comes, experience.

Can a person who professes to be a follower of Christ, not pray? It seems unlikely unless they have been taught some form of prescribed prayer. Will a follower of Christ pray? Absolutely. Will how a person prays be an implication of their devotion to God? I would hope not.

Father I pray that my prayers will be prayed in a manner that speaks of our relationship, not of my prayer practice.

Wise and Influential

When I reflect on my life, I can say rather confidently that some of the wisest men I have known were not Christian as many would term it. The other side of that is, many of the best Christians I have known were not very wise.  I do not know if that is a contradiction or simply a distorted reflection. However, it seems that those concepts are almost mutually exclusive but they are not - or at least should not be.

The wise men I have known relate life's issues in terms that are often Christian - but applicable to all men.

The Christians I have known usually relate life's issues in terms of quoting scripture - words that are not always understandable to all men (1 Cor. 2:14).

Perhaps this is one of the reasons false and deceptive teachings are so readily received by the multitudes. What is being said seems wise and insightful, however, it has no real basis of truth. Whereas those who would combat these false teachings with Scripture seem infantile and unwise, because "natural man" cannot understand them.

False teaching is seductive because it appeals to our inner desire for independence and self-sufficiency. Scripture is repulsive because it reveals and exposes man's insufficiency and lays bare the true intent of the heart - not the mind.

Of course, none of this is new. But because of today's technology and information gathering, we learn about the masses who are seduced by these false teachings quickly and easily.

Now it is no "secret" why these teachings are appealing to those who are being taught by "The Secret" or by Oprah,  it fills a need in people's lives for meaning and satisfaction.

Were these same people to see in us a sense of meaning and satisfaction, perhaps they would be drawn in the direction of the cross. But, in most instances, they do not. Or at least if they do, they see a certain level of contradiction between what we say and what we do.

Another part of it is that Christianity is not a path without suffering and challenge. Followers of Christ are never assured of anything except tribulation, "I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart, I have overcome the world (John 16:33)."

Most people I know and perhaps many you know, will not willingly sign up for a life like that. That is, until they see the peace it brings in the midst of tribulation and the love expressed through Christ.

Perhaps this whole process is something akin to Elijah and his standoff with the prophets of Baal (1 Kings 18).  Whose God is real? Whose God will answer?  

Well?

Do we live as serving a living God who will answer or do we live as servants of a baal - deceived into believing that somehow what is a figment has now become real in some way?

Wise and influential - one necessarily precedes the other. We can have little influence if we are not wise.

The High Call of Forgiveness

How God works always astonishes me.

Earlier this morning when I was reading one of Jesus' parables in Matthew 18, I began to contemplate the issue of forgiveness. That has always been a difficult concept and practice for me. I suspect it is because often in the Christian community you see the word and the concept spread about as though it were peanut butter. We spread it on everything, even the slightest indiscretion that may only require and apology - gets the benefit and strength of "forgiveness."

Anyway, after reading the passages in Matthew and then responding to my son's email, I found myself saying, "acceptance and forgiveness are things I find difficult to do."

Jesus' point in the parable of the "Unforgiving Servant" was basically this. God has forgiven us a tremendous debt - we in turn must forgive others - it is not an option, rather an imperative.  Something that issues from a realization of our own forgiveness.

Does forgiveness mean we forget?  Not unless we are god-like.

Does forgiveness mean we loose the emotion involved in the wrong? It is unlikely unless we are in a state of denial.

Does forgiveness mean everything will be okay from the day we forgive and forward?  I doubt it.

Does forgiveness mean once it is done, that wrong or any wrong related to people in interaction with one another will never surface again? Of course not.

Forgiveness is hard. No doubt. Releasing people from the debt we think they owe us will never be an easy exercise. Dare we think it was "easy" for God? I should hope not, it cost Him dearly. And our debt was real.

I need to be able to forgive. Not doing so carries a burden that extracts its daily toll. It brings its own special curse. It clouds the eye and clogs the heart.

Father, I am learning, yet I still find it hard to forgive. Allow me to dwell in the joy of Your amazing forgiveness in light of my seemingly insurmountable debt of sin. From that, may forgiveness of others come freely and without restriction.

Playing with Fire

One would come away with the impression that cheating wives and unfaithful husbands was the norm were they to watch most television "dramas" or soap operas. Desperate Housewives, Sisters, "Big Brother", or any countless number of afternoon dribble, all display fooling around as though it is expected and often lauded.

The wisdom writer says that there is absolutely no way you can "carry fire next to your chest and not get burned", or walk on hot coals and not expect your feet to be scorched (Prov. 6:27-28). Furthermore, I would suspect that anyone who conducts themselves in such a manner as to violate their marriage pledge would certainly confirm those statements. Yet it happens everyday, somewhere, with someone.

Our pastor the other evening was telling us about a news story where a 65 year old woman shot another woman in their church because she thought the other woman was spending too much time with the pastor - a man she was "sweet on."   Go figure!

Now, lest we isolate this premise of "playing with fire" to simply sexual circumstances, it could be applied to any number of things; lying, cheating, stealing from the company we work for, false pretense, etc. There are a multitude of character flaws that could cause us to get burned.

They say that if a cat steps on a hot burner, it will never do it again. But guess what, it would never step on a cold one either, because it could not tell whether the burner is hot or cold unless it takes the step. 

Our new life in Christ does not preclude our playing with fire. Nor does it exclude our being burned. The enemy, the devil, "prowls about like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour (1Peter 5:8)." And guess what? It might be you, it might be me, it might be your brother or sister in Christ.

I am not certain if the origin of our popular phrase, "play with fire and you're gonna get burned" comes from these verses in Proverbs. What I am certain of  - fire burns! Hot coals will, without a doubt, scorch your feet. I prefer to avoid the flames!

"Be With" - How?

It is my desire that perhaps someone reading this blog will help me. Help me understand the history or significance of those two little words "be with."

You hear those words often in the church, especially during prayer. I think our pastor used the phrase seven or eight times in the same sentence last night, not these words but something similar; "Lord, we pray that you would be with so and so; that you would be with our missions group; that you would be with our youth group; that you would be with our service today; that you would be with the pastor as he preaches; that you would be with the folks who need your with and your be."

Is there ever a time that God is not "with" us? We tout the ubiquitous nature of God, yet we always implore His presence. We extol the presence of the Holy Spirit (GOD) in the believer, then we ask for His presence as though He took leave somewhere or somehow.

I expect the phrase is a euphemism for "bless" but I cannot be certain. If you listen to how people use those two words "be with," it certainly implies something more than "bless." The implication is for God to be present at or with the people, function, or intent of either.

There is a historical aspect of it. In Genesis 26:3 God says he will "be with" Jacob in order to fulfill the covenant oath made to his father Abraham.  In Genesis 48:21 Jacob said God will "be with" Joseph; God says he will "be with" Moses as he leads the people out of bondage, etc. etc.  Nicodemus brings that same concept with him to Jesus in John 3:2 when he says that no one can do the kind of things you do "unless God be with him."

Now there are a multitude of other occurrences in the New Testament where these words "be with" are used. The majority are in Paul's letters where he concludes them with "grace be with you" or something similar such as "the God of peace be with you" in Philippians 4:9.   There are a few variations, but clearly the intent in the NT is different than that of the OT.   The presence of God or Christ with the believer(s) is a given. It is not something to be invoked.

Having said all that, it seems to me that "be with" is, as I mentioned earlier, a backhanded way of saying "bless", "guard", "keep safe", or something similar. So why don't we just say that?

If what we are doing is based on self-design and not God's leading, then invoking His presence or blessing is certainly commendable - even necessary. However, if it is something God is initiating and superintending, then how can it fail?

So how do we want God to "be with" us? To cover us? To confirm His agreement with what we are doing? To affirm our stepping out on faith, or even stepping out by sight? To lead our faltering steps or direct our paths?  Whatever it is, wouldn't it be nice if we just said that instead of some shorthand "be with" phrase that allows us to move on?

"Father, my prayer is that you will be with everyone who reads this particular missive."

Only Trusting

I find it hard to trust God.

Let me clarify. I find it hard to trust God when things are not going the way I believe they should; When I am not getting what I want or God is not acting on my behalf the way I believe He should. Rather selfish I know, but then isn't that what our culture is about in many regards - self indulgence, self gratification, the pursuit of more things, the "good" life?

In Matthew's Gospel, 6:19-34, Jesus spends some time addressing this issue. Within those verses there are two "therefore". As any good Bible student knows, when you see a "therefore" you always want to ask, "What is it there for?" In this section they are there for two reasons: 1) to teach us "not to be anxious about your life (v. 25)" and 2) "do not be anxious about tomorrow (v. 34)."

Prior to the first "therefore", Jesus talks about laying up, looking out, and laying down. His point is rather succinct. Laying up my list of wants is what gets my love.  Where my mind's eye shines light, the things I am looking out for, is where I converge my attention. Laying down my life to get more, is what exposes my devotion. It is all about a misdirected me.

Did I mention that I find it hard to trust God? It is hard because I am often too busy laying up stuff for myself. I am looking out for and lusting after things to clutter up my life, not to mention my garage. My devotion is on getting more, not on getting God.

My fear is rather simple. If I let go of laying up, looking out, and laying down, then how will I define success?  How will my neighbors know how good my life is? How will I be able to tell others how much God has blessed us ---- WITH?

I do not know how I am going to free myself from all of this. Acknowledging it has been a good first step for me. However, I find it so hard to let go. My fist is clinched so tightly around wants and desires. If I free myself from it all, will I loose it all? If I loose it all will that engender greater trust or fuel resentment and a renewed passion for replacing those possessions?

Did I mention I find it hard to trust God? 

The Check

I wrote a check this weekend which was undoubtedly the most unusual check I have ever, or will ever write.

The amount was not all that significant, just a few bucks shy of $90. But the impact of that check literally changed my life. Even if I could, a hundred thousand, even a million dollars would never have covered the reason for that check. So it seemed rather embarrassing to write the check for so little. Nevertheless, I did and did so with a grin ear to ear.

Not many people have the privilege of writing these types of checks. In fact, I would dare say no one within my circle of friends or even my circle of influence has ever had the opportunity to write a check similar to this. If they have, I would be flabbergasted. Not so much that they would not have the money, many would. It is simply that they, more likely than not, have never had the opportunity.

I know the circumstance this check represents will not be tax deductible on next years taxes, but that's okay. That issue was taken care of years ago.

It is unlikely that any of my children will have the privilege of writing such I check, though I would wish it for them.

And it is my hope and desire that I never have to write such a check again - ever. And I do mean ever!!!

Yep, check number 1260 in my register. Amount, $87.90, made out to Jack Hutchison, my father in law. The purpose, reimbursement for a hospital bill from January 6, 1951. The day my wife was born. A check I was pleased to write. One that he will never cash. However, it represents a blessing I have enjoyed for right at 25 years now, and intend to enjoy for another 25 or more.

Thank you FATHER!  Thank you Jack and Jean Hutchison.

Inflection and Reflection

I find it most disturbing when scripture speaks to me personally. It is much easier and more comfortable if I can glean truth related to the general population or someone else in particular. Nevertheless, I suspect it is time to hit things head on.

Verbal communication can be like a tinder box waiting to explode. A virtual ticking bomb that we hear, but often have little control over. I think James puts it this way, "It (the tongue) is a restless evil, full of deadly poison (James 3:8b)." With the slightest inflection of the tongue we can trigger the bomb and cause massive destruction. 

Let's look at an example. Take the phrase, (appropriate to the season), "I did not say the politician cheated on his wife."  Suppose I put the reflection on the primary verb...  "I did not say, 'the politician cheated on his wife.'" It adds a certain meaning.   If I move the inflection to the verb of the direct object, "I did not say, 'the politician  cheated on his wife.'" It adds a whole other nuance.

If we take this same principle and move it to our own daily conversation with or about other people, it is easy to see how a certain inflection can produce a reflection on the situation that could cause "confusion."

The writer of Proverbs says, "There are six things the LORD hates, seven that are an abomination to him." (6:16)  Hate is a strong word. It conjures certain images in our mind that are seldom positive. It is hard for us to think of God as hating, we would rather think of God as loving.  It is more comfortable for us to imagine things that are an abomination to God. That is, things that are morally repugnant.  Nevertheless, hate and abomination are ascribe to God regarding certain things.  I'll not reiterate the list, but I make one observation. Three of the seven noted in Proverbs 6:17-19 relate specifically to verbal communication.

"A lying tongue...a false witness....one who sows discord..."

For the purpose of this writing, I will eliminate "false witness" and focus my attention on the other two.

A lying tongue may be described as one who finds it difficult to tell the truth under any or most circumstances.  I know a couple of men like that and of course, it impacts any sense of trust or confidence I might place in their words. It was/is never comfortable talking with those people.

"One who sows discord" is most representative of "inflection and reflection." This person uses words to plant seeds of doubt and confusion, so that they might weaken a person's or group of people's reputation or credibility. They never overtly say this or that, rather they subtly imply or inflect a certain meaning in their words that produces the desired results. I have a penchant for doing this type of thing.  Usually not maliciously, but nevertheless, it comes out. Fortunately, I have Christian friends who do the same, so I do not always feel alone in my discomfort.***

God hates that kind of talk. That makes me cringe, because that kind of talk is often a weapon in my arsenal of self-defense. It is a tool to keep people off balance and uncomfortable; to keep me "in charge." It issues from weakness not strength. How pitiful is that?

For more on this you can read James 3 - for now, let is suffice to say...

Father, I am guilty. I confess the kind of speech that you hate. Forgive me and let me yield my tongue to the power of your Spirit that it might be tamed and brought under control.

***Did you notice how that statement does exactly what I am referencing?